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Jolie Carsten, The Clinical Director for Elliott Counseling Group joins us for Motivational Monday to discuss self-esteem.
What is self-esteem?
• Confidence in your worth or abilities
• Your opinion of yourself
• A mirror that only you can see
Benefits of Healthy Self-esteem:
• Respect for others
• Healthy relationships
• Job success
• Impulse control
• Resistance to peer pressure
1. Become aware of your thoughts.
• Listen to your inner dialogue with an increased awareness.
• Pay attention to any negative or critical messages – write them down for a greater impact and
• Recognize that those messages are just thoughts and are not inherently true. Many of those
messages are false beliefs or lies.
2. Refuse to listen to the critical messages.
• Helpful to name the voice that is giving you the critical messages in order to separate them
from yourself: think of it as a troll that you want to evict from your brain.
• Interrupt any critical messages immediately by saying “Stop,” “That’s false,” etc.
• Replace the false message with a truth:
o “I’m such an idiot” becomes “I am smart and capable.”
o “I’ll never get this right” becomes “I am a problem-solver.”
3. Create positive thoughts.
• Choose a space in your daily routine to give yourself positive self-affirmations.
o “I am successful in whatever I do.”
o “I am strong.”
o “Today I will find joy.”
o “I am proud of myself.”
o “I can do hard things.”
o “I deserve happiness.”
o “I trust myself.”
o “I enjoy life.”
o “How I feel matters.”
o “My fears are melting away.”
• You do not have to believe the affirmation is currently true in order to say it. As you continue to say it to
yourself, your brain will work to make it true.
• Best method is to daily look at yourself in the mirror and say it out loud three times in a row.
These steps can be easier to achieve with the help of a therapist to provide accountability and
guidance on the journey to increasing your self-esteem or the self-esteem of a loved one.